And as I sat there, I decided I would be vulnerable. It's not my forte, but I'll give it a try. Then the Spirit gently tugged at my heart. I knew He was speaking. And what He was spoke was about as unexpected as the sun refusing to shine.
It suddenly dawned on me that I would be the only married person in the group potentially sharing and expressing transparency in regards to marriage. And He was reminding me that even in transparency I am to honor and respect my husband.
It isn't about hiding away and not being transparent with our sisters in the Lord. It isn't about pretending that everything is honky-dory and our marriages are perfect. It is about watching the words that come out of our mouths and being women that can be trusted. It's about asking the Lord to pour grace upon our lips so that we may always speak life into our marriages, into our families and children and into any and every other aspect of our journey that we struggle with.
I desire for my husband to know that although I am incredibly transparent about the glory and the challenges to our marriage, I will always speak words that bring life to him and will never dishonor him, ever. I am hardly a pro, but have been diligently praying about this for several days and feel a strong urge to share the little practicals to what all this entails.
- When being transparent, choose your words wisely: My general is this; if I wouldn't feel comfortable saying it with Caleb within earshot, I probably shouldn't say it. I understand that a portion of transparency is to figure things out together by the Counsel of the Word of God, however, if the manner which I'm describing the situation is said in a way that I know would make my husband angry, uncomfortable or etc, I shouldn't say it.
- When being transparent, BE transparent: Be honest with your mistakes and your downfalls. That's the whole purpose!
What about you? What are some guidelines and boundaries you've established when being transparent in regards to your marriage?
P.S. We will be taken a short break this week from The Devotional with Littles series. It's been a very busy week and I'm not sure I'll get an opportunity to post again today or tomorrow with our series. Thanks for your patience! :)